Yes I realize we are way past the New Year’s resolution phase on the calendar….but hey…there is good chance you already blew those resolutions. So with this post I’m offering you a shot as redemption.
A clean slate if you will.
Let’s start over….. today.
I’ll go first….
Here goes…. but first….a thoughton why….. why resolutions are difficult to keep.
I believe that I know why many continually fail to meet their New Year’s Resolutions.
How many cliché resolution on Facebook did you skim through and not really read?
How many Facebook posts do you read and say, “Yeah right he will never lose twenty pounds by Easter.”
You know the ones….that talk about hitting the gym, quitting the smokes etc, etc, etc!
Why can’t they keep resolutions?
Why are some people already back up five pounds or smoking two packs a day by April?
What about that gym membership that hasn’t been used in weeks…… you know the one……the gym takes the money out of your account automatically….. you don’t use it…..but either are too embarrassed to cancel and admit failure or you have convinced yourself that you’ll get back at it next week!
All right I will tell you why I think this all happens.
It is because people haven’t cleansed their soul of these demons. They haven’t figured out the root of their demons. They mask the root and try to attack the behavior.
I’m not going to do that with this post. I’ m going to open my soul and show you my demons.
So here it is…….I’m gonna level with you….I need major work.
I need major work. You heard it here first and I am going to work on it as soon as I cleanse my soul here on this blog.
This year has been a blur as you can see from my year in review post.
I’m not going to lie to you…..I needed to reevaluate (which I’ve done) and do some reflection on how I can improve. I need to adjust some things in my life….. hence this post on resolutions.
Most of you know I am a Lieutenant Colonel in the active Army. I live and breathe service to the nation. More importantly (to me) I would lay down my life for by brothers and sisters in arms. The Army has been my number one priority for a very long time. But that has changed.
I’ve written a book I ‘m convinced is going to be highly successful, once it is published. I just finished the sequel. But none of this means anything without the love and support of my family.
You see……(most of you know) I became a father this year. Brady Thomas is now my numero uno priority.
So I’m struggling to balance (as I know most do) work and family…..and also my aspiring writing career. So I’m here today to cleanse my soul. Admit what I’ve been doing wrong at work and home and right myself before it is too late.
Wrong: Singularly focused on work.
Analysis: You come home from work (normally about seven to eight) and get on twitter and Facebook. Maybe edit the work you wrote that morning before work. You are too focused on goals, the challenge of something new. In this case publication, increasing web site traffic and working on your next novel.
Correct: Kiss my wife, hug my child and play with him until it is time for his bedtime. Assist my wife Megan with putting Brady to bed. Clean all the dishes while she lays him down. Fold laundry that she didn’t have time to fold because Brady dominates her world.
Bottom Line: Stop being so self-absorbed.
Wrong: Weekend work.
Analysis: Every weekend you work on your aspiring writing career until 1200 on Saturday and Sunday. Even longer if you are on a self-imposed deadline. Stop being such a schmuk Hanrahan.
Right: Commit the entire weekend to my family. (As a concession I will be allowed to work on Saturday morning till Brady wakes or a little bit during nap time) Save weekend work until I am actually on a deadline from a publisher. Cherish every moment with my little boy and wife.
Bottom Line: Stop being so self-absorbed.
Wrong: I don’t read anymore. (I’ve only read six books this year).
Analysis: You don’t have time. Your wife Megan isn’t a reader so now you aren’t either. Yet you have time to watch Amish Mafia and Wicked Tuna. Really dude? You can’t sit on the couch with your wife when she is watching the Bachelor and read. Seriously?
Right: Commit 30 minutes a day to reading. Keep track of it. Make it happen.
Bottom Line: You miss it. You love it. Get back in to it.
Wrong: Wage war with time sucking trolls on social media networks.
Analysis: Trolls get their kicks surfing the internet, twitter, facebook etc to cause havoc. They attack your position/ thoughts/ work and then begin attacking you as a person. They leave comments to your blog that don’t add value and question your manhood on twitter. This year you had an apithiny and deleted all Troll comments on your website. You even ignored the nasty comments on Business Insider when they published your stuff. But what is your issue with Twitter? Why do you allow them to suck you in!
Right: Ignore Trolls. Trolls, please be advised that you can’t win. I will ignore you once the conversation ceases to be a discussion of ideas and opinions. Not everyone will agree with me. I can’t please everyone.
Wrong: Be embarrassed when someone asks you when your book will be published.
Analysis: Now that you have a literary agent some folks expect to see your first novel on the shelf immediately. Did it sell yet? No. Why? It just doesn’t work like that Hanrahan! Why? The novel is going through a refinement process with your agent prior to submission. Why? So it sells and doesn’t sit in the publishing house slush piles.
Right: Be zen baby! Focus on my next novel. Work on my platform. Have fun connecting with future (hopeful) book buyers. Let the system run its course. Have faith in someone I barely know, but have a binding legal contract with. (I couldn’t resist that last one!)
All right folks…..those are my major issues.
I just read this post to my wife and it is by far her favorite. Affirmation for what we have been arguing about for the past six months.
So I’ve promised you a second chance at resolutions.
Who has a resolution they are working on?
Has anyone blown their resolution and want to start over?